Why your lying about porn kills your marriage



Have you ever been in the "We need to talk" situation? Of course you already know is gonna be B.A.D., because... well, not a single one 'We need to talk" sounds cool or ends good like "I wanted to tell you something" or "You know what I was thinking all day?" And very probably you also know what "the talk" will be about. Lets be honest for a second, nothing we hate the most than those four excruciating words.


WE NEED TO TALK! Today "we need to talk" about lying about porn. First of all, it doesn't mater how many times your couple tells you they don't mind about you looking at porn every once in a while, that's just one pretty little lie. We are humans, and we are built in a soft base that contains love, strength but also jealousy. Not a single human soul is exempt from jealousy. Also, the "every once in a while" means exactly that. Synonym: occasionally.


When the "we need tot talk" is about porn, believe me, your partner already know most of the answers to the questions, but they are giving you the chance to be open and honest about it. When you tell your partner that you just watch porn "every once in a while" but truth is you watch it every single day, you are letting your partner down by lying. Remember when you vowed to love and cherish, in better or worse? You're breaking that vow with something you think is a tiny white lie. "Out of sight, out of mind" you might think. But you are just lying to yourself. A lie is a lie, no gray zones in between. Just the dark stuff. That's a lie.


When the "we need to talk" plane lands in your life airport, your partner already know something is going on and is way different than what you feel comfortable saying.



Someone who loves you and cares for you deeply will notice when you change for better or worse, because love is patient and kind, and also cur