New Year... New You!

Time to reinvent yourself!

Happy New Year, my empowered friend! I hope you had tons of quarantined fun last night! What did you do? Had a sleepover? Ate some great food?


Me? I made a sampler platter! The night called for #cheatmeals and so we did! Smirnoff beers! And cheesecake! I know... I overindulged... But I don't feel bad about it. Have you seen The Rock's cheat meals? Don't say another word.


Now that a new year has begun, it's time to work on our resolutions. What are you trying to achieve? What do you need to conquer?


Maybe you're asking yourself: What did I do wrong? Why is this happening to me? Why am I not succeeding?


Most of us are wondering about the exact same things! A few years ago, we were hopeful about a new business. We wanted it so bad, we risked it all. We did all we could. We were inventive. Always trying to innovate the services we provided, we had a huge amount of visitors, or way too little. Two hurricanes came and everyone lost something. Their income, their homes. Of course, our business would be affected somehow. Long story short, we did it all, but it didn't work. And we lost it all. Including all we had before working towards our dream future.


Why Am I telling you this? Because we needed to reinvent ourselves. We needed to make tons of adjustments. We did it all right. We just had one big mistake: we invested everything, to the last penny.


And here we are! Growing and fighting every day. Doing what we want and what we have to do... and a little bit of both! It took us time to recover but we did. Now, I'm sharing with you what we learned on this journey.


The time to reinvent yourself has finally come! But how?


  • Set a realistic and achievable goal. - I know you want 1 million followers but you've been posting/writing/tweeting for a month. Be patient. Why don't you aim for 1 thousand first? Meanwhile, focus on great content!


  • Keep doing what you love. - Practice makes perfection. Keep yourself active in your hobbies. You'll need a stress-reliever!


  • Don't think of failure as a curse, but more of a blessing in disguise. - Sometimes, we don't see when bad is coming our way. In order to receive what we truly deserve, we must lose what we are holding on to dearly. Bad things happen without us planning it. Trust. Call it Karma. Call it God. When you're forced to leave a place and search where you really belong, you're being blessed without knowing it.


  • Analyze yourself from an external point of view. - Imagine you're an inspector doing quality control of a product. You are the product. What can be improved? What needs to be changed? How do people see you? Be honest about your flaws and work on improving those things.


  • Surround yourself with honest people. - Those who love you will tell you what needs to be fixed, you just need to listen carefully. Their words will come from their hearts. They'll be your support group if you fall, and your cheer squad if you win. Someone with bad intentions will woo your ego because they don't want to see you growing. Not everyone who claims to be your friend really is. Likewise, not all family members are proud of your success.


  • Fight your vices. - These are things that don't allow you to even start. Cut your addictions. Fight against them if you want to regain your focus! Spend too much time playing video games? Need to have your phone in your hand every second? Spend too much money drinking or partying? Start by cutting those things by half, then cut it some more until you aren't chained to those addictions.


  • Don't be afraid of change. - Life is full of risks. Sometimes you'll win, sometimes you'll lose. But if you don't take risks, you'll never know if the triumph is waiting for you.


  • Learn. - To reinvent yourself, you need to learn from previous mistakes. You'll make new mistakes, of course, but you won't be stuck in the past.


  • Manage your finances properly. - For anything you plan to do, you'll need to invest. Don't make the mistake of putting everything you have into one endeavor, because if you don't succeed, you'll lose it all. Think financially smart. Don't invest it all even if you're 100% certain of succeeding. Take, let say..., 25% and invest it. The rest, make sure it's well protected.


  • Declutter your emotional jam. - To begin a new adventure, you need a clean soul. Your ex broke up with you? Did your family turn their backs on you? You need to let it all go. Some bad things are meant to happen to be guided towards a more reliable gain.


  • Make a saving fund. - Emergencies happen. And they will appear right when you're about to take off, or when you are in need of money. Take 20% of your income and save it. Don't fool yourself by thinking you can double it at the end of the month. If it doesn't happen, you'll lose it all.


  • Begin by eating better. - Sounds silly but believe me, healthy habits will help you focus on what's important, like taking care of yourself. A clean body leads to a clean mind. You'll need both when starting your new journey!


  • Care for yourself. - Don't let this new attempt to take control of your entire life. Make a schedule and stick to it. Take time for yourself, daily, weekly. Take a day off. Exhausting yourself will not give you progress in the long run.


  • Don't slave yourself. - If you didn't accomplish your mission in 5 or 6 days, slaving yourself for the 7th day in a row won't make any improvement. Be the boss of yourself and command your free time. That's what bosses do.


  • Accept the failures. - Sometimes, we just have to pack our bags, clear our minds and re-plan our mission. We will not always win. Many times we will lose. That's nobody's fault. You fail. Breathe. Accept it. You're still alive. There's always tomorrow.


  • Re-start. - What went wrong? Probably you know by now. What happened that led you to failure? Move on to a new plan. Keep trying.


  • Be patient. - Life doesn't change in the blink of an eye. You'll need to try and keep trying. Hard work will give great results.


  • Evolve. - In a society that's constantly changing, you'll be forced to change with it or become obsolete. Grow. Change.


  • Make a plan. - And stick to it, but don't fear if changes are needed to be made. Your goal will like very different now, but it will be worth it.


Enjoy your journey every step of the way. Embrace the changes and accept that sometimes you'll win, other times you'll lose. That's what being alive really means!


Lots of love,

Nydia

Empowered Curvy