Take care of yourself inside and outside!
Writing about love and sex in a successful relationship is a passion for me. But it wasn't always a natural thing. 30 years of my life, two pregnancies, a divorce, lots of extra pounds, and a few more things were needed to bring me to this place of comfort and acceptance I am today. I had to learn how to embrace myself, how to love every piece of me, and I had to discover myself in every sense.
In this journey, I have learned that beyond any kind of love, the love to myself is the most important. Don't misunderstand. Every day I need to rediscover myself. That's just part of the process. To evolve.
Self-love! Ah! The respect for your own self and your needs! Self-love is to take care of yourself, your needs, your happiness first.
When you love yourself you protect your heart, your life, and your happiness with healthy boundaries. Contrary to narcissism, self-love is a beautiful practice that enriches and benefits everyone around you. When you take care of yourself properly, your happiness levels increase and you transmit good energies to those around you. Have you heard the phrase that Joy is contagious?
Well, in fact, it is contagious! Loving yourself, accepting yourself is the right magnet.
We are living in complicated times and the effort we have to put into everything is bigger. In order to function our best, we need to take care of ourselves properly. We must prepare ourselves to be the awesome mom, the ever-loving wife, the cool friend, the badass at work. So much work.
How we do that? Can it be done?
Sure! It can be done! And it is extremely necessary!
This awesome challenge only requires minimum effort but the outcome will be long-term. At least 15 minutes a day, we are going to focus just on ourselves. We'll leave the world and its problems aside to make us a priority.
Here's a list of things to do during the next 30 days. Pick one per day. You can repeat it if you like but the more of them you complete, the better!
30 Days of Self-Love
Day 1: Hello, gorgeous! Today you'll just sit alone to enjoy your coffee or tea. Put your phone away and for the next 15 minutes just enjoy your drink and observe. What do you hear? What you can see? Is there a particular smell you enjoy?
Day 2: Write yourself a letter to read after the 30 days of self-love are over. What do you expect to learn? What do you want to achieve? Tell yourself how incredible you are!
Day 3: Wear a completely different outfit. Do you wear mostly jeans? Rock a dress. Formal palazzos to work? Wear a nice blazer with some tight jeans!
Day 4: Treat yourself to something quick and sweet! Like these mugcakes! You just need 5 minutes!
Day 5: Read blogs for women! Like www.empoweredcurvy.com. Of course!
Day 6: When was the last time you touched yourself? No better day than today!
Day 7: Indulge some chocolate! If you're cutting sugars and carbs, try this recipe! It's rich, delicious and healthy!
Day 8: Watch something sexy, like Bridgerton!
Day 9: Declutter your workspace. Nothing more relaxing than having a clean and very well illuminated working area.
Day 10: Make this a Relaxation Tuesday (Or Thursday!)
Day 11:Buy a new underwear set just because you deserve it! What about sexy black lace?
Day 12: Have your lunch far away from your phone. Focus on the flavors.
Day 13: Enjoy the silence.
Day 14: Leave yourself a note in the bathroom mirror.
Day 15: Drive to work listening to your favorite music. Sing at the top of your lungs.
Day 16: You are halfway there! Buy yourself something you always wanted.
Day 17: Write a journal with your daily experiences. What did you learn today? What curious thing happened at work?
Day 18: Try a new dinner recipe. What about a nice cowboy steak with cauliflower smash? Yummy!
Day 19: Take a day off. You deserve it. You need it. You want it. Take advantage of this day to sleep late. Go back to your delicious bed after dropping the kids at school. Seat in front of the tv for a movie marathon.
Day 20: Re-watch your favorite movie. Don't have one? What? Okay... okay... What about P.S. I love you? Or Law-Abiding Citizen? Gerald Butler fest! Yes, please!
Day 21: Can't forgive & forget those that hurt you? Write them a letter and burn it! You'll feel liberated after this!
Day 22: Buy a new sex toy! No explanation required, I hope!
Day 23: Make this the last day when you compared yourself to others. You're an incredible woman. There's no one like you in the whole world. Why comparing?
Day 24: Put your alarm 10 minutes early and apply a revitalizing face mask. You can make your own if you like. My favorite is this one, and you can prepare it ahead and leave it in the fridge.
Day 25: Do a good deed. Send groceries to a family in need. Pay for someone's dinner. Order delivery pizza for a neighbor. Send healthy snacks for your kid's classmates. Send diaper boxes to a shelter with newborns. Write letters for people in nursing homes. Send cookies to nurses at your local hospital, or sanitizing wipes to your school.
Day 26: Send a gift to someone you miss, like your parents, siblings, grandparents, or in-laws. Don't sign the gift. You'll feel even better if you keep it secret from them.
Day 27: Watch at yourself in the mirror. Stay there for a while. What do you see? Don't know? Well, I see a strong woman who knows what she wants. I bet you see it too because that's you!
Day 28: Have some ice cream (or your favorite treat!)
Day 29: Take a bath by candlelight.
Day 30: Have some sexy time! Don't wait for your hubby to lead this tango! At least this time take initiative. Make the first move. Doll up with that lingerie that makes you feel like a goddess and jump on him! Literally!
Finally, read the letter you wrote on day 2. What has changed? Do you feel different?
Lots of love,