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30 Days Kinky Challenge for Couples



August is coming and with it, the promise of school days! Kids playing with their friends at school and at night falling rendered to the tiredness and excitement of going back to school again! Awww, what a precious time to be a school kid (sarcastic laughter). As back to school make its way back, parents return to the magical recovery of some time for themselves and of course, for each other.  But as we know, quarantine is in fashion, and it seems it came to stay.


As we parents have to choose between in-school learning or homeschooling, priorities scramble. Of course, we want our kids to go back to school! Even they want to go back to school! We love them dearly, but this quarantine is destroying their social interaction. As this moment, top priority is to keep our loved babies healthy and away from Covid-19, at least until a vaccine is available and normality starts to make its entrance. Someday. Someday soon (fingers crossed).


Many couples have seen their sexy time compromised due to the absence of actual school days. I mean, remember those nice fall days after you left your kids at school and went to a picnic with your S.O. to the nearest lake? Remember when you started doing naughty things with your hubby in your private backyard?


With kids in the house 24/7/365, we all start missing the kinky spirit that’s now forced to be tamed inside. But, should we keep our hands to ourselves? Should we just resign our relationship to after kids bedtime sex?


I don’t think so. WE don’t think so.


And as August is coming, in-school or homeschooling, I am planning on gifting my hubby with a 30 days kinky challenge for his birthday! So, prepare this challenge as your naughty homeschooling party just for the two of you! Time to teach and learn, and to recognize our desires and be kind and sexy to our partner.


As every fun thing, both should be in agreement. After both have given their verbal consent, Let's make some rules together, shall we?

This 30 day challenge corners us in the middle of the Covid-19 eternal quarantine, but also with kids at home and a lot of extra work, we’ll focus this challenge more in arousing than sexing. The great finality of this experiment is to connect with our couple by been emotional, present, spicy and kinky. To feed the intimacy! Orgasm or not to orgasm, penetrative or mostly rubbing, that’s up to both of you. The result should be measured in closeness of feelings rather than orgasms amount.


The Kinky Challenge Rules

*The challenge can be paused when the period arrives, during travels, family visits or sickness. Days skipped must be added at the end of the challenge.


*We can also extend it to a 45 day challenge, adding some sexless days in between. Just remember to stay present and connected, doing things together. Sex is a priority in a marriage, but sharing, relaxing, loving and resting also are.


*Both partners must agree to pause or skip a day, as long as the day is added at the end of the challenge.


*Every partner has two chances to Skip one activity and go straight to sex (of course). If one runs out of SKIPS, he/she can buy a SKIP from their partner, in exchange, the partner chooses the new activity (and, of course, looses one SKIP).


*Any sexual, sensual or romantic activity can be added as long as both partners agree.


*If a partner isn’t comfortable with one activity of this challenge, it can be exchanged as long as both partners agree. Make sure to establish this before starting the challenge. If isn't expressed at the beginning, one SKIP must be used.


*Establish a safe word for when things get rough. Always respect the safe word. This means the security and trust of your partner and your relationship. (We have safe words that are way too difficult to say- hubby invented it himself- is a fun way to decree intensity of action if someone is not feeling into it yet.)


*When someone isn't feeling well, do stop and just go to relaxing together. Later you can both talk about it over a coffee.


*Challenge cannot be paused or broken because of discussions or anger. The purpose of the challenge is to strengthen your bond as couple, so suck your ego up, talk it out, apologize and forgive quickly and don’t go to sleep without fixing it. You’ll feel better. Eventually. (Is a matter of practice.)


Now, without further ado, let's get deep into the challenge!


30 days Kinky Challenge


Day 1: Let's begin slowly! Full body massage. Start away from the erogenous zones and make your way to your partner’s special spots. You can take turns before doing the “in-body massage”.

Day 2: Kissing! Invest some good 20 minutes kissing. Lips, neck, face. After the 20 minutes has passed, have the kinky fun both of you choose.

Day 3: Have sex at any time, excepting before bedtime. Duh!

Day 4: Watch a Kama Sutra video together. Choose two positions and try to recreate them! Careful not to hurt yourselves! There’s still a lot of days of sex, you'll need those hips grinding!

Day 5: Repeat! Be a Wolverine! Have sex two, three, four times the same day!

Day 6: Just cuddle for a very long time. Until falling asleep together.

Day 7: Read some steaming erotica together. Do your thing!

Day 8: Quickie. One. A lot of them. Nothing better than an “Almost got caught” quickie!

Day 9: Foreplay on the go. Take a short and quick trip without the kids (they hate going grocery shopping, especially if you are thoughtful enough to offer to bring ice cream). Caress each other, graze each other’s body. Excite, arouse, tease. Just don’t do anything illegal. You can always go back home and have a quick fix in private. (If you remembered the kids' ice cream!)

Day 10: Light up some scented candles and give each other a foot massage. Take that work tension off of your S.O. body by rubbing those feet with a nice healing cream. Intercourse isn’t necessary but always appreciated.

Day 11: Watch a movie in bed. In underwear. Or naked. Share ice cream.

Day 12: Tongue action. Take turns bringing your partner to orgasm just by giving oral sex. No 69ers, you little rascals!

Day 13: Let him dominate. Do as he order, even if is a night of cooking him a ribeye. Not essentially sexual, but sensual. Besides, the purpose is to please your partner and make him feel cherished. Do please him. You got the picture!

Day 14: A mouthwatering 69. Need explanation? I thought so!

Day 15: Let her dominate. Do what pleases her. Let her be the bossy kinky wife! Enjoy her. You can thank me later!

Day 16: His pleasure. Her hands/boobs. Handjob/“boobjob”. (Pun intended!) Make him see the stars.

Day 17: Just touch each other. Massage your couple’s body. By now they must be sore. (So good!)

Day 18: Put the kids to bed early and escape to the backyard for a very quiet quickie. Steamy but also gives you the feeling of risk (Which isn’t, because you’re perfectly safe and protected in your own house. Unless you’re giving the neighbors a dirty show.)

Day 19: Self-care! Masturbate facing your partner. Both at the same time. Without touching the other, only yourself. Try and climax together.

Day 20: Sex toys. Buy one together. Try it today!

Day 21: Find a “couple porn” video no longer than 20-25 minutes. Imitate the action. (A great suggestion is to research the movie beforehand. To avoid cold feet.)

Day 22: Non-penetrative sex. Orgasm, Please!

Day 23: Sit together and have some coffee. Talk about how are both feeling about this challenge so far. French Kiss, please!

Day 24: Email your partner your kinky desires. Make one or two come true tonight!

Day 25: International day of caresses! Sex is not required. Only too much touch!

Day 26: Slow sex. Very, very slow. No quick trusting. Just a long ballad. Old-fashioned lovemaking.

Day 27: Cook together. Intentionally, let some food fall on your partner’s skin. Lick it off.

Day 28: Fingering fight around the house. Just make sure kids are already in bed.

Day 29: Leave your S.O. a love note in the lunch bag, bedroom, desk, his car. Texts doesn’t count.

Day 30: Do whatever you want, but do it together.

Some more:

Idea 1: Roleplay. Both dress the part.

Idea 2: Dirty talk.

Idea 3: Sit on top and just kiss for a very long time!

Idea 4: Random Porn

Idea 5: Fully dressed sex

Idea 6: Backdoor pleasure

Idea 7: All day long buttplug

Idea 8: Romantic sex. Put some sensuous music!

Idea 9: Suck an ice for a couple of minutes, or even better eat ice cream, and go down on him for an ice-standing blowjob experience.

Idea 10: Sext.

Idea 11: Break each other’s clothes. Wild sex!

Idea 12: Cuddles! Be hugged until falling asleep in each other’s arms!

Idea 13: Facesitting action until the end of the world. Her power. His pleasure.

Idea 14: Give your girl a facial with your cum! (As a blowjob result. Pro: her face will be radiant the next day!)

Idea 15: I bet your guy loves your butt! Probably, he wants it close to his face... closer... closer! He’s just ashamed to ask!

Idea 16: Slow blowjob, looking straight into his eyes. (Pro tip: red lips. Need I say more?)

Idea 17: Kiss your girl tenderly, fiery, a combination of your mastered kissing styles. Do it while touching her cochy. Extra bonus if you make her orgasm!

Idea 18: Striptease a la Magic Mike. Put some naughty song and shake your junk! Just for her pleasure. She'll want more!

Idea 19: All day teasing.

Idea 20: Selfie boudoir! For his eyes only!

Idea 21: Buy a present for your special love. (Order it beforehand. Planning is the key.)

Idea 22: Dick pick. Surprise her with a pic of her main dish!

Idea 23: Blindfolded sex. Both of you!

Idea 24: Lap dance/ Sexy dance. Be his belly dancer or his personal stripper. Just for his pleasure. He can even tip your performance!

Put a calendar in your bedroom door. Away from your kids’ prying eyes, but always visible for both of you. Review it every morning, or even better the night before.

We hope you have a lot of fun together and a better and stronger relationship based on trust, love and passion.

Love,

Nydia


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